I figure I should try and write about the most happy time in my life. Comments are always welcomed and needed. This is the first part of my story. Enjoy!
I do not regret the events that lead me to this time. It’s the events that lead me to Jake and that
is the one thing I will never regret. It
was at my lowest and darkest point in my life and somehow Jake just knew what I
needed and wanted. Whether or not we
make it through, I’ll always be thankful for Jake and all he did. If it wasn’t for him, I would still be
miserable and alone.
It was one month after Marcus’s birthday and I had decided
to try and gain back my independence from him.
Kim and I called it the ‘Pre-Marcus’ life and I tried everything and it
failed. The NKOTBSB concert I went to
with Carilly and Rusti helped until I saw a couple three rows down holding each
other during the Backstreet Boys’ romantic ballad. Getting home that night, I decided to give
myself one more week before giving up. I
had already accepted that I would never get married, so might as well accept I
won’t be happy either.
Kim and Carilly always talked me out of my crazy thoughts,
but I think after the first ten times they just said things to make me
stop. So I went out and got a third
opinion, in the form of my pledge sister Kalli.
We met up for lunch on a Saturday and, before dessert, I brought up my
Marcus dilemma. The all important question then came up. ‘Do you love him?’ At
that moment, I said ‘yes’ and Kalli told me that’s all that matters. No one can tell you what to do because
ultimately it is my choice. After we
finished dessert and left, I decided on a new course: try and live my life and
if Marcus decides to come back, then go back to being with Marcus.
The other reason I met up with Kalli for lunch was the next
day was a sorority day at Disneyland.
Kalli was not going to it because she lives so far away. Most of the girls were meeting right at 8am
and, deciding sleep was more important, I would meet up around 10am. However, we all were getting t-shirts and not
wanting to carry my shirt the rest of the day, I woke up at 7:30am and headed
out to the park.
In between hugging and introducing myself to everyone,
behind the crowd I saw him. It was a
short glance and immediately went back to the sisters. It must have been that quick glance because,
from Jake’s version, that was all it took for Jake to fall in love. Me, however, I was just there to have fun and
catch up with some of the sisters I don’t see as much. What really caught my attention, and made me
giggle, was us being partners on It’s A Small World. During the ride, Jake called out ‘Hey look!
It’s Perry.’ I heard that and started to giggle because, probably out of
everyone in the boat, knew what he was talking about. I didn’t see his reaction
because I quickly turned away but I’m pretty sure Jake heard me.
We weren’t paired together until the afternoon bathroom
break. I was talking to one of the
sisters until Jake slowly came up and said ‘Hi.’ No guy, ever, had come up to
me before and at first I was surprised.
Then we started up a conversation about shows and things we like to
do. Jake, later on, told me he was
nervous to talk to me but knew he had to before I left. At first, I was being nice to Jake but after
a few rides I started feeling comfortable.
For the first time, even during the times Carlos was being a ‘boyfriend,’
I started feeling genuinely loved and important. Though in the back of my mind, I figured he
was just being nice too.
Jake and I left the group and got on the Mark Twain boat,
which there was no waiting but was super packed. It would have been my favorite memory of that
day if I didn’t pull a Lina and fell down on the stairs. I was so embarrassed but Jake, to make me
feel better, said I was nervous about what was happening.
‘Why, what happen
Jake?’ I would ask him, knowing what he meant.
Jake just laughed and replied, ‘Why it was the exact time I knew you
were the one.’ Then I would laugh and say, ‘Was that before or after I fell?’
Jake would laugh again as he held me in his arms and would just kiss me.
Once the boat floated away, and after I got over my embarrassment,
we headed up to the deck and kept talking. At one point during the
conversation, Jake reached over and held my hand (which he had been doing
before). My conversations were based on
Carlos experiences at first, but after a while (and running out of ideas) I
just started deep conversations with him.
Before I knew it, Jake had gotten close to me and put his arm around my
waist. That moment on the boat was a
real turning point for me in both ways.
I had this guy with his arm around me and could possibly want to be more
than friends. However, I felt I was
cheating on Carlos (which was so stupid because we were nothing more than
friends with some benefits).
Rusti and even my former uncle Robert told me I needed to
take a chance on a guy, whether or not it was Carlos. That moment on the boat was probably my best
chance, but I was still scared of rejection.
I didn’t want to mess up this friendship I was making with Jake and
decided to let things happen on its own.
After the boat we met up with the group, just to check in, and then we
headed to California Adventures.
Personally, I could care less about the park because there’s not much to
do but Jake loves it so, for the sake of the friendship, I went along.
Soarin’ Over California is his favorite ride and a must to
get on, so that’s what we decided to get on.
I think, even to this day, that ride is still my one favorite ride. We get in line, which wasn’t a long wait, and
Jake goes back to holding my hand and then my waist during the whole time. It hit me right before we got on the ride: I
have to take a chance and see if Jake’s interests were the same as mine. Immediately the image of Carlos kissing me at
Venice Beach came in, and I was close to backing out. However, I fought the urge and decided this
is what I need to move on.
We got off the ride and headed outside, without a word until
finally I stopped Jake in the middle of the walkway. He was holding my hand, of course, and where
I stopped him we just passed the restaurant next to the ride. I do not remember
what exactly Jake said, but I remember what I replied. ‘So do you want to make this official, Jake?’ The same words I would shout to Carlos when
we would fight came out as a question but also of hope. I really like Jake and either way I wanted to
still see him (and now have a Disneyland buddy to go with).
Jake looked at me and smiled as he replied, ‘Yes babe. You
are my girlfriend now, officially.’ After that moment, everything was
different. I felt like a different
person and, for the first time, was being treated like a girlfriend. The night ended with the fireworks with us sharing
our first kiss as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, it was only a group
of six girls that stayed so they knew what happened. After the fireworks, we all headed out to the
parking lot and Jake still had his arm around me but it didn’t bother me
anymore. Once we got to his car, Jake
turned around and gave me one last kiss.
‘I’ll talk to you later babe’ he said as he walked away.
I got into the car and headed home, realizing what just
happened today. The doubts started
coming in and by the time I got home, I figured it was just a show even though
Jake did say to make us official. I decided to not say anything, as to not jinx
it, but I did mention it to my mom and she was surprisingly supportive of the
news. I went to bed, feeling happy that
I was finally in a healthy relationship but worried this was just a dream.
